February 23, 2011
I’ve come to the realization that I don’t spend nearly as much time these days on the internet at home, which means less posts. And honestly, that makes ME very sad. So I reinstalled the WordPress for Blackberry app, even though I thought it sucked because it slowed BB down immensely. But I have to blog. I need to blog! So here’s my latest rambling ..
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Lately I’ve been thinking about the concept of being good in bed.. Am I the only one who thinks of things like this? What does it mean to be good in bed-for a woman? Asking different guys can get you a multitude of different answers and every issue of Cosmopolitan magazine has a trick that contradicts what they taught you to do last month. It’s not like our moms sit us down and tell us how to blow a mans mind.
In reality all the tricks and tips we have learned are courtesy of lovers past and truth be told what Jimmy likes Bobby may hate, so what the hell is a girl to do?!?
But how do you KNOW you’ve just given some guy the greatest experience of his (life) week…is it because he comes back to do it again? Noo.. Because guys sometimes do it because its convenient, they are masters of lazy and will do things because they can. Is it because he told you? Hhmm.. In the words of my dude Jay-Z “Men lie. Women lie.” And how many times have we had a less than stellar lover and didn’t tell him but we still did it (him) again?
So, I asked a guy friend and a girl friend this question simultaneously. He said, “enthusiasm, willingness to please, open minded, and good old fashioned good vag (a whole different blog entry)”
And she said ” enthusiasm and technique”
So we have a recurring them here: enthusiasm .. I can say I’ve heard that before so its no shock. Its always pleasing to know the person actually wants to be there. I wonder if this is why some people can become bored with monogamy, the enthusiasm dies and sex just becomes “oh great, another night with this —” because the other will be “oh god, we gotta have sex tonight” you gotta keep it spicy in a relationship.. Not even in the trying new things, but just showing you actually want it (the sex). I also think that too many women equate size with greatness. UM. NO .. That is all for now.
Signing off, dr. Cleo, inquisitor of bedroom-ology.
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February 16, 2011
Sooo … In case you guys don’t know this about me I say some pretty ridiculous things, pretty often. You ever see the show, Kids Say the Dardnest Things? No, me neither since it was before my time, but I heard about it… but that’s me .. So here are some snapshots of random things I said while on my Virgin Voyage to Cali with @HollywoodHeat and E-BFF @Jess_Dubb, my two favorite strangers (who I guess aren’t strangers anymore)…
“Its warm and gooey and you bite into it! How is he gonna make that analogy!!”
J:I can only wink when I’m up to something devious.
J2: uh so what were u up to when you winked at that little girl?!
J: I wanted to scare her.
“That looks like the guy who raped charolotte King”
L: I don’t like Waffles, take that black people!
J: you lie! Waffles are Belgian!!!
J: what’s a male version of a shiksa? J2: a shikso?
“That’s real pedophilliac.”
.. Yeah .. IDK .. I question myself.
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February 8, 2011
The other day or last week me and a friend were having a conversation over Gchat .. and I decided to blog it .. rather than explain it and all that, just check it out::
A: so right, my new co-worker told me that I seem unapproachable. Like when Im walking around and stuff, and I look mean until I start talking to someone and then I look happy and good .. but that she was kind of nervous to talk to me .. .and then she sat with me last week for training and she’s like you know then I really realized ur really nice and funny and stuff
I dont seem unapproachable do i?
is it cuz I’m light skin?
B: lmao. I think its cus your black
A: lol but she’s black too
B: Real talk though, I think part of it has to do with the fact that you/we have this “woman on a mission” look/walk/way about us, that may make us seem unapproachable
that doesnt matter
I’ve had a black person tell me the same thing
A: thats true .. i do have a “woman about my business walk” lol
B: told ya! and your a cutie, so maybe she thought you thought you were “too good” or something
you literally have to go out of your way to say hi to everyone and damn near smile as you walk. lol
A: its true! you have to like be this walking smiling mannequin .. but like who the hell just walks and smiles?
B: heres the kicker though. (I’ve being giving this some thought)What do ppl really think would happen to them if they approached you, especially in the work place??
do they really expect you to give the stereotypical eye roll, head dance attitude?
A: this is true .. like do they expect a sigh and a head nod and for you to keep it moving? I think its a cop out for people being nervous sometimes .. like don’t blame it on me .. just say, “I was new and nervous about my first impressions. ..”or whatever
B: right!!!I can KINDA see guys feeling like they might get shut down
(had a dude that I thought was hella fine at my job tell me that)
but I dont think we run into that problem with older guys (as Ive been approached, even if its just to say hi, by older guys at my job)
women, are a different story though.
A: yeah I agree … men, especially older are diff .. one guy just walks past my office and says hello .. i can’t even remember his name .. just whenver he’s in my building .. women are diff .. which is why I was happy that I started work the same time as another girl so it kinda broke the ice
and almost everyone in my office is under 30 ..
** I might have to blog this ** lol
B: go for it!!!!
its definitely a issue that I think a lot of females face. On the opposite end, do you approach 20 something new black females, at random or not?
A: I always introduce myself to people when t hey start .. and try to make converation, ask where’d they work before .. get a feeel for them
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What do you guys think? Has this been something you’ve faced / encountered? Is this real? Why do people judge you off how you walk around?
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