Somehow, when I heard celebrity dating video, I knew it would be Ashton Kutcher, he is known for his hijinx acts from shows like MTV’s punked. The over the top characters are probably just the type of people you would find looking for love on a site
First I have to talk about Darl, he was probably my favorite, he was a dead ringer for a young Karl Lagerfield. He was just the type of personality you’d expect a “high-fashion” diva to have. Darl also kisses his dog on the mouth (gross) and ate a chip after the dog licked it. I almost felt like I was watching an old Paris Hilton video too. Of course he is looking for love, because he doesn’t know how to express it! And this guy looked the least like Ashton. Go Makeup! Definitely an extreme character.
My second favorite was swordfish. Something about knuckle tatts makes a guy endearing? He didn’t look harmful, but sort of like he belonged with a Sons of Anarchy vest on. And he keeps a “log” of thoughts, hopes, wishes. hehehe Don’t confuse it with a diary -_-
He does two other characters, Nigel and Raj, who are also looking for love on worldwidelovers. And of course he himself is looking for love. Oh Ashton.
Definitely check out each guys individual video. You will enjoy them. I promise. And I hope you find some love too!
Today I can’t help but think on the difference between affection and attention. Which one is more important? I immediately thought back to a time a few years ago. It was within the first year of me graduating college and I lived in my first apartment. Me and the infamous EX were on one of our “off” periods that had lasted at least 8 months to a year. While we weren’t technically Ina relationship we still engaged I relations and spent a huge chunk of time together masquerading behind the premise of friendship. During this time “apart from him” I met a guy who I still refer to as “south jersey,” and he was a complete 180 from what I knew. He was older by approximately 8 years, smart, interesting, and open about his emotions and his flaws. We didn’t get to see each other because he lived in the foreign country known as southern new jersey but whenever we saw each other I felt smart, sexy, and confident. Those feelings lasted for days after. It took me awhile to open up to him but he earned a special place in my heart. Eventually I began to have feelings for both SJ and EX.. And even though everything in my mind told me don’t go with EX, I always went back to him because of attention, even though often there was an absence of affection. I remember roomie saying to me that I valued attention more than anything else at that time.. And even though I knew it wasn’t smart, I began diverting my attention and feelings into where I was getting it from most. How many times do women fall for the wrong types because he gave her the attention she feels she deserves?
I started thinking about this as I am on the brink of meeting someone who probably can’t give me the attention I “want” but the affection isn’t missing? Am I making any sense? In the logical side of my brain, I know that constant attention is a spoil enhanced by increased access to technology and definitely not realistic. My last relationship was so full of attention. Because it grew out of HS, a place where you saw your love daily, the when we separated during college years texting and aim kept us constantly in contact when we couldn’t see each other. It seemed normal that you’re supposed to talk to your love all day every day.. What world was this?! What I did learn was constant “attention” doesn’t delay or prevent infidelity. Even though I was constantly In touch with him, he still found time to pursue others. So was the attention really worth it? Did it define how he felt about me?
Reeling myself in .. I’m struggling now with how much attention do I think I need versus how much affection I crave. Am I ready for quality over quantity? And even though I have the same, if not more access to technological ways to stay in touch, do they really matter? Do I have the time a day to be pinned to my phone exchanging random text messages or enjoying. My days to later talk about in bed while cuddling? I started thinking “what would Carrie do?” in SATC they don’t seem to be preoccupied with talking to their beaus all day, they are too busy being good friends, career minded individuals. Even Char, who became a housewife, didn’t seem to spend her days worried about talking constantly to her husband. Is this a lesson that gets reinforced with age?
Hi Guys! As you know, or may not know, every year I give up something for Lent-even thought I’m not Catholic. This year my sacrifices are: Nail Polish and Coffee .. Why Nail Polish and coffee you ask?
1. Nail Polish: This one has a stipulation. I am allowed to use my Nailtiques nail protein, but no buying or painting my nails. I realized that I have a bit of an obsession with buying polish and painting my nails when I purchased 5 bottles in one week. So I decided to challenge myself to not do any . I believe Lent should be a challenge. Also, healthy nails are important, so I’m going to take the time to continue fortifying my nails with the Nailtiques. My natural nails look pretty healthy, but I do feel they start to get weak when I add/remove polish too often. That saddens me. I want ridge free nails!
The nails around the apples have no polish on them and were taken about 2 weeks ago, prior to Lent.
2. Coffee. My sweet love coffee. I feel that when I shed the most weight was the last time I gave up coffee. I also know myself and that knowing that, I still am unable to shack my coffee habit alone. I need the challenge.. God Speed to me. I have discovered the tea lattes at Starbucks however. This time around I’m drinking more than just my White Peach Mango Lipton Tea. I’ve had Trader Joes White Pear Mango. Some herbal tea with lemon (bleck) and now the tea lattes. I tried the Vanilla Rooibos Tea Latte at Starbucks only to discover it was caffeine free, but still delicious! The next day I tried the Awake Tea Latte with vanilla flavoring. YUM. I can’t get too hooked though, the whole point is to shed calories, not find an equally caloric tea drink.
As much as I loved my journey with hair color this summer, I am saddened by the damage to my hair length and most importantly its texture! Soo.. I created this photo collages to chronicle the changes .. I was in LOVE with my curls summer 2010, it was the year I discovered the CG method, or a modified version.. Then I did my usual straight in the winter where I cut my beloved bangs … Then in May 2011 there was my color… I went blondish with no bleach.. I guess my hair just doesn’t respond to color and all the conditioner in the world won’t save it.. So now I’m taking a break from my winter hair, aka heat to give it some love, hopefully I don’t have to do another chop off. I can’t go back to summer 06 where I cut it off… My face didn’t do well with that..
So in this collage we have my Summer 2010 curls, do you see how awesomely beautiful they were. This was the first summer I really felt I had control of my curls and I had a quick and easy regimen. The next photo is when I first cut my bangs. The black is my natural hair color. It had such nice flow. then we have my dye, which I did for my birthday in May 2011. Still long and healthy, but it had just started. Then we have my summer curls. They appear a little frizzier and not as tight as the previous summer curls, but length was still there..
Here we have late Summer 2011, where I straightened my hair. As you can see it looks a bit ratty at the ends, but it was long. But as anyone knows – long and damaged hair is AWFUL. So I did what you are supposed to do, I CUT IT! that is the 2nd photo. The last two are more recent. Because I felt the color was drying I darkened it. but its still breaking.
* sing it like you mean it * Brown Chicken Brown Cow . Get it?
Ok, that was in a greeting card I read at Target and totally not the topic of discussion today. I’ve had this blog sitting in limbo for some time (notice a theme in my blogging life?) Life is just confusing .. but I want to take a moment to thank my booski Anu-veetrrraaa for her lovely insight today. In one of our uber silly conversations she let out this gem of knowledge. Bless her young soul :
no one wantsss a boyfriend they just happen haha lol, yew being single is no reflection on anything missy
I mean, I’d be lying if I didn’t say that being single is discouraging! I mean, clearly its apparent here on this blog where I write about my many MisAdventures of dating (or lack thereof) but sometimes it really is … disheartening. I don’t realize how much time I spend brooding about being single until I thought How do I spend so much time talking about it?
Don’t get me wrong. I don’t sit and brood. But when you are a young woman and you get with your friends, what do you think the topic of conversation will naturally gravitate towards? MEN … I mean if I were to read this blog I’d probably think I was some boy/sex crazed fanatic.. but I’m really not! I swear I can hold an amazing conversation that doesn’t even come near the topic of men, but you probably wouldn’t know it from reading this. am I OD? And it would seem that I’m unhappy. I’m really not, I am actually in LOVE with my life right now. I love my mentees and seeing their progress. I love my apartment even if its not where I want it to be yet. I love that I just got Lasik. I love that I can lounge around the house all day in sweats and a headscarf and no one can know. And through it all, I love the idea of love. I’m not jaded or crushed or hurt or skeptical (ok maybe a bit skeptical…) . I guess I’m hopeful, about so much in life I find it hard to find the time to be sad about it.
**update**
Some great quotables from a Melanie Fiona interview (who I can say I am looking forward to checking out her second album) I just read and I thought it to be fitting:
So in the meantime, you’re single?
I’m single. But I’d rather be happily single than miserably in love.
Is the heartbreak on the album?
It’s all over the album. A bit of what I’ve learned is in each song. I’m in no rush for wrong love. But if right love is outside that door, I’m ready. Love is the foundation of everything. It just has to be right. And I know what’s wrong now.
What’s wrong?
Love and relationships are really simple. It could be so simple but you’d rather make it hard.
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.”
This quote, by Winston Churchill, has been permeating my soul lately. I remember in the past saying my biggest fear was failure and I didn’t even have a concrete definition of failure. Was it failure to meet goals I set for myself or expectations that I think others may have imposed on me. What was this failure that I was so scared of. So, when I kept seeing this quote it stuck with me and I let it marinate – as I do with most things. And I started to question what exactly is my biggest fear.
Now, my big thing now is evolution. Evolving. change. My biggest fear today may not be my biggest fear next year. Just as my goals for this year as always changing. I realize the change whenI answer questions, I don’t say “I will NEVER do ____ blah blah “ instead I might say, “I don’t see that right now but who knows what the future will hold..” So right now, I do have a big fear of living a lonely life. Like to be older, unmarried, no kids, and no strong sense of family (frequent readers know that my family life isnt really close). I don’t want to grow up into an old cat lady. I am a firm believer in sharing your happiness, and I don’t want to be that new breed of “woman” that put so much into her career and getting ahead that she forgot to have a life (and sex!!).Right now, I am working on just being an all around good, nice person -which BTW I think I am lol.. so I just have to be patient and not worry too much about the future in that way. If you build it. It will come.
I realized while talking to someone over the weekend, I have been holding out! I have not been sharing in my nail journey with my blog. I mean I LOVE my nails. Designs are so fun and actually having healthy nails is a task. The ultimate compliment I got was when my nails were plain and someone said, “wow your nails look so healthy!” * cheese *
So here are some nail designs I have done myself over the last year or so. Many of them are inspired by looks I’ve found online. I read and watch tutorials. I also am obsessed with buying nail polish and nail care things. I also practice. As you can see from some of the pics. One thing I wanted to try but never got around to was the tribal nail. Maybe next summer.
Some of my fav designs here. You have the mood changing polish, depending on if you’re body temp is hot or cold it can be pink or purple. That was my most recent birthday. The nails I literally JUST did are the baby doll pink with black matte leopard accent nail. I was inspired by some photos of black and gold matte leopard nails and wanted to try to recreate. Right before those was the terracotta color, which is Zoya Natalie (the pink was Zoya Flora). Zoya is an all natural polish and I stocked up on some great colors due to their buy 2 and only pay shipping sales! #WIN. I love the neon yellow. I did that using a tip from diynails.tumblr.com, which was to apply coat(s) of white underneath the yellow to make it stand out because when I first did it, you couldn’t even see it. It made my nails look like jaundiced yellow “/
In one corner you have my blood splatter design from Halloween. I got that idea from reading www.refinery29.com They have great DIY nail blogs, especially for holidays. I also love the nude with polka dots. The nude is Zoya Shay (FREEE) and that was in November. I did the white with orange polka dots when I went to ATL in May for PhDubb’s graduation. I also love the teal color at the bottom and a similar color is on my nails in the top corner.. the bottom is Mattese Elite, which is exclusive to Ricky’s in NYC. Buy with ME had a sale, spend $20 and get $40 for use at Rickys. I bought 5 bottles of Nail polish. There are some designs I didn’t talk about but if you have questions on them, I will gladly answer. As you can see I am passionate about nails! My coworker swears I’m in the wrong profession.
My nail polish habit is sick. I had more bottles but discarded a few. Last I counted I had about 31 and I bought more after that. That’s not including top coats and base coats.
Nail Care ::
My nails were in pretty bad shape at one point. I didn’t really know to file in one direction only. I would file with damp nails. I would bite. Use my nails as a tool. All the things you shouldn’t do. My friend introduced me to Nailtiques, which is a nail protein and my nails, while not extra long, have grown to be extremely healthy and flexible due to the use of that and better technique. It retails for about $20 bucks a bottle but lasts for at least 1-2 months. Nailtiques can be used as a base and top coat, but when I use it I typically just do it bare nailed and go hard for 2weeks or more depending.
For a base coat, I’ve recently been using the Seche Vite
Ridge filling base coat. I also use their quick dry top coat, which if you google, gets AWESOME reviews. It reallllly is quick dry. That came as a bday gift from the same friend who introduced me to Nailtiques.
Lastly, for cutiles. Essie Disappear Trick. NO trimming. Just 15 second application. push back with orange stick and you’re hands look ah-maz-ing.
I recently watch a Deborah Lippman video on manicures and took away some great tips that I’m working into my routine. I also want to splurge on either some Deborah Lippman or Chanel Polish.
I finally, finally completed my Dream Board. I don’t even want to tell you when I started it, but just know that it was stalled for so long because I put so much pressure on myself to make it “perfect.” But what is a perfect dream? Why do I have to have on dream? I remembered, “Yo, this is NOT permanent…Change as necessary.” This board is reflective of where I am now, what desires I have, the goals I want. Because because ultimately I want to be near a beach where I reside. The book and pen reflect my desire to get back to creativity, stretching my imagination. The fitness? self explanatory right?
I think this board is awesome. It’s my desktop saver. I wrote, what’s more important in lipstick on my bathroom mirror (I wonder how long it will last *shrug*).
I think this year is going to shape up so well. I think I might be optimistic again!!!
Perfection is not just about control. It’s also about letting go. Surprise yourself so you can surprise the audience. Transcendence! Very few have it in them … The only person standing in your way is you. It’s time to let her go. Lose yourself.
I read this on Jess’s blog and it stood out to me. Mostly because yesterday we had the conversation where I revealed that I guess sometimes I’m scared to be myself. Myself being slightly neurotic and a complete over thinker. Most people don’t know that about me, because I always appear cool, calm and collected. And I tend to try to be. But inside my mind, things replay over and over and over. And I do like to typically think about things before I say or do them. But why don’t I want people to know I mull over things? I mean, that just makes me human right?
Then I was talking to Man on the Moon and I revealed that often the thing that we want the most is also the thing that we fear, and that was also applying to my life. I love talking to people where I’m really just talking and as I talk I’m coming to my own revelations. Friends are therapists indeed. I was telling him that I really want love. To be in a relationship. A real one. Getting to know someone, wanting to be engrossed in them as a person.. the fall. the friendship. the passion. But I also fear the experience. Being vulnerable, being open. Being hurt. Falling for someone and them not falling back.
All of this relates back to the quote in the fact that, no one told me I was neurotic or insane or hated me for it. I thought those things and think (thought) that people would dislike me for them, or judge me for them. I fear that I will fail at the thing I want or that the person won’t want it back. Has that happened to me in the past? Not in a way that I can strongly remember. I need to lose myself. Its a new way of saying what I’ve said before, “Don’t take yourself so seriousy…”
Random thoughts … that keep repeating. time to put the lesson to work. I think that is what my 2012 is meant to be about. Putting into action the lessons I’ve learned over the past 2 years. What is a lesson if you don’t apply it to life?
I feel like every year, like hoards of other people I’m making a resolution to lose weight … Then I fail, and six months later I’m making another vow to lose weight. It’s depressing frankly. So, this year I’ve decided to take a new route. I’ve stolen the Alcholics Anonymous mantra of ‘One day at a time’. (No, I do not say a serenity prayer before or after meals!!!).
I am the queen of slipping up and saying “I’ll make it up tomorrow by _______” and that starts a downward spiral of bad eating and workout habits. I also cannot get complacent with hearing “Oh you look slimmer now…” I have to be commited to the goals I have. I thought of using the ‘One day at a time” mantra because when you think that tomorrow is promised you tend to not take things serious! I need to be serious about this. I’ve been on a perpetual diet since I was 16!!!! I’ve felt bad about my size, my clothes, my body, everytyhing for too long. If I can commit to all these other goals, why is this one so hard to reach? I just want to feel a certain pride about myself, because it is OK to be vain and take pride in your physical appearance. I’m proud about my mind, my spirit, my humor but if I’m honest I am not proud of my body. There I’ve said the thing that most girls fear saying or are too ashamed to say. I rebuke you fear and I’m willing to admit I want to change it. but I also admit its hard and I don’t have or know the proper tools. (Shuttup you people who just say eat less, excercise more… while true, its NOT EASY!!!).
I have to also stop being overly harsh on myself. My weight doesn’t prevent me from doing things (except wearing a two piece) and stop being so quickly to laugh it off or make a joke out of it. I sometimes have a defeatist attitude when it comes to the scale, but yet I’m completely obsessed with it. And honestly, I’m more concerned about jean size than what the scale says. So I pray that I can just get into a size 8 jeans in a year. Size 8. That’s all I ask and want to work for. And a little booty.
As we approach the new year I think a lot about what I’ve accomplished both personally and professionally each year. And I think about what I hope to tackle in the next year, I believe that I’m at an age where resolutions don’t hold too much merit .. and I think of what it means to make a resolution and maybe we’re doing it wrong. I watched the movie, New Year’s Eve and I thought about Michelle Phiffer’s character and how she set those goals and had to get them done before midnight (the New Year). They weren’t things like “Lose Weight” or “Save more Money” They were more tangible. More memorable. This is a little off topic for what I wanted to write, but not completely. Anyway. I don’t resolve to do anything for 2012, but I resolve to have a plan to make tangible changes, I think *bbm squiggly face*
This thought comes to me because for so long I’ve been trying to find the balance between work, school, and play. All three equally important things in my life at the current moment and hopefully they will all be there as 2012 continues. As I struggle to find the balance I don’t know what to proritize first. I mean, its a no brainer right. Work. School. Play right? or is it School. Work. Play? And when I say play I include everything from gym, to reading, to TV time, to ladies night out with the girls.
As I was trying to figure out a schedule for the upcoming semester for my gym life around my work and school schedule I was faced with a dilemna. Mostly because of my place of employments alternating 12-8 with 8-4pm days. GGGGRRR to working til 8 (But I have to be thankful for a job, right? *bbm eye roll* I am. No lie. I reallllly am. ) Anywho, I really would like to switch some of my days around to make time for some classes at the gym in addition to going to my brick and mortar classroom learning… But my boss is meeting me with resistance. Why? Because it would mean he has to work alone on some evenings and some morning. * sigh *
*Jan. 3*
So I started this post days ago, but I’m just coming back to it.. and I can’t remember my original train of thought, so I’m just going to post it.
Whenever I have a strong reaction to something, I try to figure out why.. I usually find that whenever I’m upset with something it stems from some major issue I probably haven’t gotten over in life. . So why would I care to write about this. Yesterday was my buildings Secret Santa exchange .. rather than type up a full summar I’m going to take pieces from GChat to show my true reaction of what happened::
OMG i am bout to sound so ungrateful
but we did our office secret santa today and like everyone had to write down 3 things they wanted i wrote down nail polish, sephora gift card, and ipad charger … do u know what i got?
a snowflake votive candle
it was a 15 dollar limit thing
like from the dollar store
i got my person a amazon gift card from amazon Person :: A votive candle :-/ me: one
a t that
not even a whole fucking set Person: Well maybe your person had fallen on hard times. me: um
and it was optional
you didn’t have to be in it
so if you on hard times maybe you should have declined participation Person: Well…I tried. She forgot lol me: im annoyed man
we work across the street from walgreens
u coulda ran over and got any kinda gc
this is why i don’t get in the Xmas spirit
when i try to
someone comes along and just fucks shit up Person: Don’t be like thaaaaat
Its just office ppl, not real ppl me: woo sah
i k now
but i mean
we are reall people
like wtf is the point of a list if ur not going to follow it
they make us do lists to avoid shit like this Person: Calm down J.
OK .. so later on .. I was still fuming about it .. and then I thought why did this bother me so much .. and this is probably going to make me sound like such a loser or w hatever .. but I was kinda excited for my small little thing because I’m not going to have any other Christmas gifts .. or because there isn’t another realll expression of Christmas going on for me .. I think I teared up a little bit typing that .. Like, I don’t expect anything from my grandmother because she’s not financially able and my grandfather isn’t a Christmas person .. in the past I always had the BF who exhanged gifts with me.. and I mean, I’m not saying Xmas is all about the gifts ..because its not .. but idk.. Chirstmas Day for me is going to kinda just be another day. Wake up. Pack. Have dinner with some family. I guess I got myself a little excited about seeing someone excited from something I got them that I’d want someone to bring me that kind of small excitement.
But I won’t let it steal my spirit. I’m excited to see my coworkers reaction to my small tokens of appreciation for them tomorrow. And just be over it .. but now I know why I reacted so strongly .. * sigh * I had my bratty moment . It also probably didn’t help that the person isn’t someone who’s my favorite person in the building. But next time, please stick my list bitch.
I read a lot about Geminis. I’m born on the cusp on Gemini/ Taurus but I’ve always identified as a Gemini.. I’ve learned that your perception of yourself is largely shaped by how you identify yourself. Anybodiessign, so much of the literature on Geminis focuses on their need for mental stimulation, and I definitely have that trait. If there is one muscle in my body that gets used, its my brain. I love to read, observe, and do all types of things that give me new knowledge. It’s probably why when I do learn something new I can obsess over it. It’s why I need not only an emotional partner in life but an intellectual one.
Before Thanksgiving I met up with THEE ex, and I could have sat there talking for hours. I mean we talked about everything: Music (can you name 3 T.I albums?), family, the falsehood of the American home ownership dream, everything. We didn’t always see eye to eye but the sport of debate and conversation was thrilling. It felt good to exercise my mental prowess. I’m still thinking of points to things we talked about. Its tough missing that. In this dating world that I’m in, its hard to find someone who may not be turned off my all my “intellectual” talk. I was once discouraged from putting it upfront that I work, go to school, and volunteer because it can be intimidating. HUH?!? But I’m proud of these things, and this is my day to day life, how can I avoid talking about it. Its tough. So I loved that I had that stimulating experience to remind me that I can’t live without it.
What’s one of the biggest ways to constantly challenge your mind? Change. If there is one thing in life that is constant, its change. That’s the saying right? I thirst for change. Not the radical dye my hair pink kind of change (well maybe in some ways but that’s another story..) But the kind of change that causes you to grow and challenges your psyche.
My desire for change and my quality for fixating on ideas have brought back to the forefront of my mind the challenge of moving to California. This is something I WANT. I can’t explain enough how I’d be disappointed if my whole life centered around a narrow experience. I look up jobs, condos, apartments and all those things periodically to see what opportunities exist in CA that I see myself in. Despite the dismal fiscal outlook for CA right now I still think I”l find a job in my field. I can’t explain the pull of Cali on me.. Something about it draws me, appeals to me. They say go with your gut – and I want to. However, I have to remind myself now isn’t the time, but I’m working on a plan. I want to finish my degree here at NYU and have my tuition reimbursed from my job (which takes 2 years after degree competition). It seems so far away but can it be done by 2015 (also known as the year I turn 30-WOW)? I wonder if its worth waiting for my job to reimburse my tuition 100%. I mean is the cost of higher loan payments worth putting dreams on hold? On the other hand (another gemini trait-indecisiveness) isn’t it the adult thing to wait until things are RIGHT? What is RIGHT? What does that mean? And why do I feel the need to finish at NYU? Its not about the credentialing, however I do feel that its important given my background and desire for growth.. I want to move and not be in a pay check to paycheck situation. Now is the time to begin saving, planning & minimizing. I’m working on shedding my attachment to THINGS! things will hold you back, trust me. By things I mean – cars, bags, shoes- alleged american status symbols, feel me?
Ok, let me bring this back. In spite of everything I have currently going on, my desire for change and learning causes me to become bored, how is that possible? Is it due to the over activity of my gemini mind or just a real feel of outgrowing where I’m at now?
Yesterday I read this very thought provoking article called, “You Can’t Marry a Hot Vampire”. The article starts with saying how there was another article that made the assertion that romance novels are to women what as pornography is to men, that they work the same because they are rooted in illusion. Interesting right? But WTF does that have to do with Vampires?
So, the author then talks about how Twilight is the penultimate in romantic / emotional porn for women because of what it stands for. You have a woman who has two different archetypes of the embodiment of the type of man women want. You have Edward, the “Prince Charming”- he’s well-bred, polite and sensitive with an air of danger (to quote the article). Then you have Jacob (the HOT Taylor Lautner) who is the “Barbarian Prince” -He’s wild, passionate, fun loving, adventurous – uncivlized yet alluring. Two men who are anything a girl could ever want, right? What the articles central point was is that
“In the same way that pornography creates false expectations for physical intimacy, Twilight creates false expectations for relational intimacy. It tells girls it is not unreasonable for them to expect to be hotly pursued by the two most desirable guys they know. It tells them their relationships should be defined by all-consuming passion from Day One. And it tells them their future boyfriends/husbands need not necessarily be “human,” but rather anthropomorphized checklists of masculine ideals.”
He pretty much asserts that women have traded marriage for myth … I think this is interesting.
I will be the first to admit that I romanticize things, in my head. However, to the world I’m always sort of waiting for the other shoe to drop. But the article is kind of true. It’s like that episode of Sex and the City where they call Charlotte out about her “urban relationship myths” and how it’s always a friend of a friend of a friend, whose man came to his senses, left his wife and they moved to the suburbs and lived happily ever after. But does that stop us from dealing with the emotionally unavailable guy in hopes that he’ll realize that with us his world will change? But is Twilight and its romantic ideals any different from the millions of movies we watch? I am not alone if loving a great romantic comedy, and don’t we almost always finish it up with, “I wish I could find a love like that.” We all wish we could be shopaholics who find a millionaire who loves us despite the fact that we pretty much lied about who we were for our whole courtship (or whatever you call it in 2011).
What’s wrong with fantasy? Is romance as foreign as a wizard academy? What does Harry Potter stand for? Are we telling people that all these movies about triump and discovery are bullshit too? Aren’t we encouraged to have imagination and to live our wildest dreams? In The Last Lecture Randy Pausch talks about not letting go of your childhood and how imagination gets your everywhere. I refuse to give up romantic ideals and settle in reality. I have to believe that my “Prince” is out there or else I have to resolve to the fear that it might be a long lonely life!
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