Hijacked from Dubb who hijacked it from someone else … OH the wonderful world of blogging!
5 famous people you’d like to meet.
* Warren Buffett
* Steve Jobs
* Janet Jackson
* Toni Morrison
* Kanye West (yeah i said it)
5 books that affected your life.
* the coming of age in Mississippi – Ann Moody
* eat, pray, love – Elizabeth Gilbert
* Why we Can’t Wait – Dr. Martin Luther King
* The Bluest Eye – Toni Morrison
* Eyewitness Auschwitz: Three Years in the Gas Chambers – Filip Muller
5 favorite movies.
* grease
* Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory
* The Nightmare Before Christmas
* The 5th Element
* Mr. Magorium’s Wonder Emporium
* nice large hands
* well read
* diverse music taste
* intelligent
* a nice smile, generic but true
5 things that turn you completely Off.
* insecurity
* negative attitude
* over confidence (read:cocky)
* compulsive liar
* not stable
5 rules that you live by
* You’re only responsible to yourself, until you have kids
* If you love it, go for it
* Don’t talk about it, be about it!
* troubles don’t last always
* Treat others how you want to be treated
Dubb sent me a GREAT read today about long distance love, I absolutely LOVEEEDD it .. my response: When am I gonna get my e-love? Of course I was joking (i think) but I started thinking of my e-life. And while I haven’t found the e-love of my life like others (barf barf) I have found an E-BFF!! yes, I’m talking about @Jess_Dubb, who I have to stop myself from referring to as Dubb IRL .. because my friends side-eye me like who the fuck is Dubb?? *does this make me weird??*
Me & Dubb’s relationship has progressed sort of like the couple who I read about today. First we were following each other on twitter, and through our tweets & @ replies discovered the other was hella cool. We also checked out each others blogs and commented on each other .. Eventually some emails were exchanged and then we became BBM friends. Now, our BBM relationship didn’t jump off right away .. there were some short convos at first. We were kinda feeling each other out I think, then it later progressed to full on events
.. WAIT WAIT WAIT!!
Lemme back up .. there were some Google Wave 3somes with @HollywoodHeat (Google wave came & flopped huh??) and that was my first 3 as well (Dubb blogged it, check it out) ok .. so BBM progressed to daily BBM convos. We talked about so many different things, relationships, school, random shit, family, etc., Then we started Gchatting during the work day because I mean, we both work and we can pretend we are doing work if we are facing a computer screen (#imjustsaying).. and then it happened last week, We talked on the phone *shocked face* Idk, maybe Dubb didn’t like my phone voice, since she hasn’t called me since ?? (I kid, I kid, BBM suits me just fine!)
And a few weeks back I slowly started planning my trip to ATL this summer.. and Dubb shall be my tour guide .. and when she comes to the Dirty Jerz this summer, you best believe we shall play in NYC and have a blast. And we’re both looking at graduate schools on the West Coast. Me + Dubb on the strip w/ the sun on our backs blogging it up .. Yup .. sounds fun!
Maybe I got what I needed online, just not how I expected??
You know someone living with HIV/AIDs. They may not be close to you and they may not have disclosed it to you, but chances are there is someone you know. In my family, my grandmothers brother died in the early 90′s from AIDS. I remember being in 3rd grade and our family had to visit him in South Carolina. It was a sad time because he was so sick, bedridden and all. AIDs isn’t just a something that plagues far off countries, it happens every day in our own back yard. Don’t be stupid people! Everyday you should be making choices that keep you safe, but today is a day to spread awareness. Have you been tested lately?
Think about these statistics: According to UNAIDS estimates, there are now 33.4 million people living with HIV, including 2.1 million children. During 2008 some 2.7 million people became newly infected with the virus and an estimated 2 million people died from AIDS. Around half of all people who become infected with HIV do so before they are 25 and are killed by AIDS before they are 35.
I want to try out a new thing. Pictures are worth 1000 words, right?
Why are Catholics so obsessed with abortion? I really can’t get with it. Choice. It’s all about Choice. Same religion that doesn’t let grown men get married and ignores all the news stories about Priests molesting little boys. #organizedreligionisacrock.
Since I’ve been able to vote I’ve been exteremely aware of my elected officials. I’ve voted in every election that I was able to and always encouraged my friends to do the same. Yesterday was the NJ gubernatorial race, and the two candidates (because independents don’t reeaaaalllllyyy count) were John Corzine (the incumbent) and Chris Christie. Well, I cast my vote proudly for John Corzine on my lunch break.
I don’t really check the polls until they are all tallied, and after the tally, Christie was elected the next Governor of my great state. Frankly, I’m definitely disappointed in the low voter turnout in NJ, when so many people claim to be upset with the Status Quo. If you have a problem, use your voice! This is what the nay-sayers have done. They used their voice and voted for whom they thought was right. Unfortunately, I don’t feel that Christie is the right candidate and it has nothing to do with his political party!
He makes claims that he wants to fix the state budget and he has a problem with unions, like the Teachers Union. So pretty much, he will fix the budget on the backs of our teachers, seniors programs and children. And everyone is up in arms about property taxes going up during Corzine’s term: NEWSFLASH- Governors aren’t responsible for your property taxes, thats your county government. Another election you people have skipped out on!
If people can remember the last Christie in NJ politics, also a republican, you’d remember that she put us into a giant Hole. She never funded the State workers Pension Fund. She left this State in Shambles. she single-handedly did more fiscal harm to NJ than any other NJ Governor When Corzine was elected, he was in a hole so deep that he had to cut 5 Billion out of the State Budget. He also removed 50% of the tolls on the Garden State Parkway. People are saying they want a change in NJ, the Soprano state, well you’re definitely going to go in a different direction, but it won’t be good.
I think I feel this election more seriously, having close ties with a major state school, and seeing how Corzine rallied for protecting jobs there. Joblessness in NJ is high, around 9%, but it still less than other states battling the same problems. For state employees, pay freezes and Furloughs have saved many jobs, including my own. We’ll see whats ahead in the years to come, but I definitely don’t see this as being easy.
One more thing people keep doing that is annoying. Stop trying to relate this failure back the President Obama. Seriously?? Corzines failure is his, not the presidents.
With every new phenomenon in social networking, researchers are always trying to figure out, or categorize the users and dynamics of why and how it works. The latest internet craze, Twitter is no exception. Friends, who are not users, are always asking me, “What is the point?” or “How does it work?” and I always find it hard to explain. Twitter is something you have to use to understand and see why people like it. This study, done by Professors Naaman and Boase of Rutgers University (RU Rah Rah!!) did a study that revealed their are 2 types of Twitter users: Meformers or Informers.
It’s obvious what an Informer is: They use their tweets to post messages that contain information, like news links. Meformers post what they call “me now” messages. These messages update a users followers about what their thoughts, location, or immediate situation. Sometimes these random thoughts are hilarious. I in fact, love a good random thought!
Meformers typically have less followers than informers. And Informers tend to be active in social awareness streams, and interact more than Meformers. Not all Informers though, sometimes you get news networks or companies that don’t respond (ahem *cough*) But some places are great, l ike @Zappos!
Other info I found interesting in the article:
# Informers have more friends and followers on Twitter than meformers (Informers had a median 131 friends and 112 followers compare to meformers median figures of 61 friends and 43 followers.)
# Females were more likely to post “me now” messages than males. (Forty-five percent of females’ messages were “me now” compared to 37 percent of males’.)
# Posts from mobile devices were more likely to be “me now” messages than posts from non-mobile applications. (Fifty-one percent of mobile-posted messages were “me now” compared to 37 percent of non-mobile messages.)
# Informers mention others in their messages more often.
What am I?
I think I’m a combination of both. I don’t typically share things that I find are already being spread by others, people hate redundancy. I do share info I find new, exciting, or just plain strange! I do go a bit personal sometimes, but I don’t want to seem like a drone while tweeting.
What are you?
I guess Anita Tedaldi never thought she’d have her name spewed across the internet news pages. But when she decided to write about giving up her adopted son to a new home after 18 months, she opened that door.
Short Story Short: Anita has 5 kids, a husband in the military, and decided to adopt a child. She said she’d always wanted to adopt, and didn’t go into it blindly. She became the proud mother of “Baby D” when he was just under a year old. After 18 months with D. she found that she could no longer be his mom because they were having “bonding” issues.
After reading her blog about the ordeal, I get the sense that she did really care for him. I don’t think it was about race, as some have claimed.I think her family (read, her biological kids & husband) didn’t bond with him, and that influenced her decision. On D.’s last day, her daughters barely waved goodbye,
My daughters were watching SpongeBob and said goodbye to their brother almost nonchalantly, as if he was just going out for a bit and would soon be back.
And her & husband fought over this issue. I think its sad that this situation happened to that poor child, but he is still much better off than many other children in his situation. He was adopted by a different family and hopefully he will be treated fairly and with love there.
I recently acquired a pet. A cat named Phoebe to be exact. Now, I don’ t really consider myself a cat person, but ever since living alone I thought getting a pet companion would be a good idea. I toyed with the idea of a cute dog, but then I thought about the time commitment a dog would take. I didn’t think I’d have that much time or dedication to give to a dog, so I began tot tinker with the idea of getting a cat. At first I dismissed it because well, I didn’t see myself as a cat lover and cats are known to mischievous/sneaky pets. But then I saw my best friend get a kitten. Her kitten was so cute. He was so cute and she named him Sookie (hello TrueBlood fans!). I would go to her house and just play with her cat. Even after he knocked water on me while I was sleeping, I still liked him. So then I went on this quest to find myself a kitten, preferable for free since times are hard when you decide to live on your own 30 miles from your job.
I found out that cats don’t usually have kittens in the winter, so finding a kitten would probably be hard, especially a free kitten. I began to look around for cats online at animal shelters and did find a few, but didn’t want to pay adoption fees. So I went to everyone internet lovers friend (or foe if you get caught up) www.craigslist.org. I responded to an ad and decided to go meet up with the people. I had lots of fear instilled in me for fear of being scammed and therefore attacked and maimed all for trying to get a damn cat.
Fast forward 3 weeks later, and I’m adjusting to life with a cat. Phoebe is around 8 years old and she’s such a sweet kitty. She likes a lot of attention when I first get home. Sometimes its a pain in the neck because I need to get stuff done. I will be working on my laptop and she will stand on me, in front of the lapto until she has had enough attention to move. OR while I’m cooking dinner she constantly meows for what reason I don’t know. But I feel an obligation to give her a good home because the people who gave her to me seemed like they gave her a good home. I have learned that I will now need a lint roller for all my clothing. Indoor cats shed a lot because they have no real sense of the seasons. I learned that she rubs up against things to leave her scent on the, not to get familiar with them like a blind person as I initially thought. I learned that scoopable kitty litter is your friend. I learned that cats do NOT always keep it in the litter box. I learned litter follows them all around your house also therefore you need a broom, which I do not have.
I recently learned what declawing does to cats. I didn’t realize its a process where they basically take off the tips of your cats fingers. I feel bad for poor Phoebe Sceebe, but not so bad that I wish she had claws to scratch me. I also discovered cats have a rough tongue, it makes for an interesting feeling when phoebe wants to lick my hand.
I do feel a little crazy when I come home and talk to Phoebe. Its almost like talking to yourself, but I think she likes hearing my voice or at least I hope so. I feel a very strong bonding towards this cat I’ve only had for a few weeks. Listening to her purr is quite relaxing and I am happy with my choice to get a cat, even if I do have a minor allergy.
Has everyone heard about the proposed taxes in New York? I don’t live in New York, I do go there often, as does any person in Jersey, so I feel some of these taxes will affect us here. First let’s just say that New York is already super expensive. Just buying a simple bagel and orange juice can be about 1-2 dollars more expensive than in Jersey. Fast Food chains are expensive and let’s not even talk about the cost of drinks in the club. It is downright high way robbery. But dammit if the city is a fun place to hangout!
Well, recently Governor Paterson, who has taken post after Spitzer was removed because of his illicit call-girl activities, has proposed almost 88 new taxes to make up 18 billion dollar deficit in the New York budget. The state of NY was so reliant on funds from Wall street, but now that those execs have caused their own demise us poor folk must pay. If that isn’t the resounding theme of 2008.
Basically he wants to impose a “digitally delivered entertainment” tax which could include iTunes downloads and services like NetFlix among others. We will herein refer to this as the “iPod tax.” He also wants to tax soda and non-nutritional beverages (think beer and wine :0) or any beverage that is less than 70% juice. This will be referred to as the “obesity tax.” There used to be a tax break in NY on clothing that cost under $110, but he wants to axe that. Additionally he proposes a tax on cable and satellite TV and a Taxi tax. Wow, lots of taxes on the average New Yorker.
THere have been lots of outrage regarding these taxes, saying that he wants to nickel and dime the average person, versus taxing the people who have the money, i.e. the now derelict Wall St. execs who despite the collapse still received thousands of dollars in bonuses. I have a few things about this iPod tax and obesity tax. There have already been polls released that say that people aren’t going to download less despite being taxed more and I can’t say I blame the. With more and more things becoming increasingly expensive people need a way to entertain themselves, and buying actual cds is just kind of dated. And they don’t last as long. IF you really like a CD and you play it a lot it can get scratched and damaged fairly quickly. You can not scratch a download. I do question how will the regulate this? Can a NY’er just cross over th e tunnel and make their download at a Starbucks in Jersey to avoid the tax? this would increase transportation revenue, LOL. NO, but seriously, how will they? For some NY’ers it is very very easy to get to Jersey via the Path or the NJ transit. Granted it will cost them, but is it worth it?
Obesity tax? Harsh name, but really is this necessary. Soda and other non necessity food items are already taxed, at least in NJ so how much more are you going to do it. I read an article on the NYtimes that said that this is really a benefit to people, just like the smoking tax, because despite the health risks people won’t stop until its money involved. Hmm.. that made me think a lot about the health risks associated with drinking. The tax won’t go to diet sodas, which can be more harmful than regular soda due to the affects of that devil known as aspartame. How does he see diet soda as a necessity? Seriously? ICK. Do I think this will cause people to cut down on liquid calories? No. I think that more people will buy in bulk. It will be cheaper to buy a 12 pack and bring your own soda vs. buying a 20 oz. every day. People are not going to give up habits like that easily. I say maybe 2 % of the the NY “Coke crew” (yes I made that up, that is for people who have to have their Coke with every meal, we all know someone like that) will actually cut back on their soda drinking.
My only question is… how does this affect the cost of a Non-Fat Caramel Macchiato at Starbucks in Penn Station??
Over the past few weeks there were articles about Circuit City closing 20% of their electronic stores. This made me sad. Circuit City was always my choice over Best Buy, maybe in part because where I grew up it was closer or because they are just a better store. I actually can’t even say I’ve been inside a best buy, because I always seek out a Circuit City. Either way, they are cool with me. So the news made me sad. I felt bad for the employees that would lose jobs, and the monopolization that would occur in the market if Best Buy is left standing alone, because no one shops at Six Ave Electronics, they aren’t as cool. They don’t even sell DVDs and stuff.
So, imagine my disappointment yesterday when I heard they filed Bankruptcy. Now, my first concern was “Oh snap, what about my extended laptop warranty!!!” What will I do! That kinda puts me out a few bucks!! So I had to Google what really happened, and I read that they didn’t file bankruptcy, but bankruptcy protection, Chapter 11. I felt a sigh of relief. And a little bit of joy because this means they are going to have killer Black Friday sales, and I need a new digital camera. Preferably a Canon, so I will be stalking them for a good price. But do people really feel that Best Buy is a better store? I can’t recall ever having been to a Best Buy and I don’t go to places like Walmart ( I don’t support Walmart at all) to buy my major electronic devices. What is the thrill of Best Buy? Is it the cool commercials? They were never located in close proximity to me, so I never felt the need to seek them out. Especially since Circuit City was doing a good job, and as far as websites go, I prefer CCs… am I just biased? No!! Better is Better.
This was the election heard round the world. Since when have Kenyans, Indians and Asians cared who was the American president? But after 8 years of falling into an abyss that would lead to America becoming yet another FORMER world power, faith has been restored in the potential that America has. Barack Obama and his movement have made that possible -not a campaign but yes a movement. He rallied support not only of the youth and blacks but he also revived an American spirit deep down inside all of us. So many people have said today that they now know what it feels like to be “proud to be an American. “ I actually feel that I am proud. I have happy feelings I can’t put into words. I open my facebook and myspace and see everyones status reflect their giddiness over the new direction we can have. Change is resonating through our hearts and minds. People actually have faith in change, shocking.
I am only 23 and I can freely admit I may have thought this possible one day but never in a lifetime where I would be so young. The first black/African American president. I am humbled and awed all at the same time. I am also realizing even more how my generation has to step up to the plate and help continue to propel us forward. This is our generations civil rights moment. This is our March on Washington. Can we believe it was only 40 years ago that Dr. King said one day, no one really saw one day as being any day soon. This does not mean by any way that racism is dead in America,or any country, but rather shows that racial barriers can and continue to be broken down every day. Not only am I proud for my generation, but for those still alive from the original movement who have lived to see their hard work and perseverance pay off. That is what brings a tear to my eyes and a chill to my spine. Thinking of their pride, and ultimately their power in being forces of change. They are the people who need to be praised and admired. They deserve a standing ovation on inauguration day.
I can’t believe I had the fortune of being at CNN watching this moment unfold. Being in a room full of various people of shapes, sizes, and classes and seeing everyone burst into applause at the projection that he’d won. Seeing people tear and gasp out of happiness was enough to make me feel good. Seeing massive crowds gather for a man who the republicans tried to drag down with pettiness and slander stand strong-with his beautiful wife and daughters-made it all slightly surreal. Seeing him embrace his new role with grace and dignity made me sure he was the right man. I know on the inside there were all sorts of emotions on his part. Thinking, “I have been chosen. I am the leader. Wow.” Followed by “oh shit, I have been chosen I am the leader, wow.” Lol.
I know its not going to be an easy road for president-elect Barack Obama, but I think he’s shown he’s solid, “solid as barack.” LOL. I believe this is the election that will be remembered for years. This is an American triumph. There have been wars before, so yes 9/11 will always be remembered and idolized by some. But to me that is just a day to be honored and remembered. I sympathize with those who lost family and friends. But to me, this here, is my American history. This is what affects me. This affects the world.
This was not my first election, I voted in the 2004 presidential election, the New Jersey gubernatorial election that elected Jon Corzine, the presidential primaries and now today. However, today was the biggest thrill I got. I actually knew that if I didn’t vote I had no voice-which is always the case. But this election is monumental in so many ways-this is history. We are making history here, like the CNN ad in the New York times today, we are living in the moment in which history is made. No matter who my ballot was cast for (but we all know I Barack’ed it!) I made a contribution to the future of my nation.
I woke to a sea of text messages from friends encouraging me to get my lazy ass out of bed to vote. I already knew I was voting early, to avoid any possible long voting lines that have been plaguing the country since early polls opened. I was prepared, I stopped at Dunkin Donuts and got a Vanilla Chai with a plain croissant. My ever ready Ipod was in my purse and you know I don’t go anywhere without a book and a notepad. So I was prepared to pass idle time waiting in line. Imagine my relief when there was NO line. I knew I had a good polling location, but everyone had scared me into thinking no matter where you went you would be waiting. But fortunate for me I was good. You could tell there were expectations for long lines because the polling center had made provisions. Usually there is one big room and its divided up alphabetically inside an elementary school. But today they had the ward divided into subdivisions. And since I didn’t know my subdivision I didn’t show up on the first lists. So I’m like oh, NO! I checked and I am registered! So they searched and saw I was in a different subdivision. And I trolled across the ground level of Lincoln Elementary school and found my name on the voting list and walked right into my voting booth. I stood there for a minute, took a deep breath, looked over the ballot and said, wow. Barack Obama and Joe Biden. I even placed my opinion on the questions they ask, voted for my senators and councilmen. Because if you don’t have local representatives that actually represent you, then its no point. The real process is shown from the bottom up-vote for you mayor, councilmen, freeholders, senate and congress. They ultimately set the precedent for how our future president can behave. Anywho. yeah, I voted for it all. And I loved every minute of it.
I spoke to my grandfather about it, and he was very nonchalant about it. First joking that he voted for John McCain, then laughing saying, “yeah right, I don’t vote for thieves. You know I vote democrat.” He was so casual about the idea of voting for the first major party African-American candidate that I loved it. My great grandmother was born in 1912 in the south, so even though she is dead, I know she is so proud of us actually being able to have this choice. I once tried to ask my grandfather (b. 1937) about his sentiments during the 60s, and he downplayed it, saying he tried to stay out of it. He was very close-lipped about relating his experiences. He summed it up by saying, I’m from Ocala, FL. I didn’t want to die. Wow.
“A woman’s heart should be so close to God’s that a man has to seek him to find her…”
This quote was inside an email I received. This quote, combined with an intense conversation someone and I had the other day made me question, Why are we so concerned with someone else’s proximity to church, God, and spirituality? I think that people are overly concerned with others religious beliefs, and for what? Does it make someone a better Christian if they can convert their sacrilegious friends over to the Holy word? Does God smile on them then and only then? I don’t see why people are so obsessed with judging someones faith based on how much they go to church. Why is it so hard to believe that someone can be close to God and not support organized religion? Why does it matter to the next person, seriously? It has been my experience that churches can be sometimes filled with many “half” Christians. Folk who step out to the club Saturday night and praise Him with that same hand that held the drink the night before. OR you have the ones who are “SAVED” in the sanctuary and get in the streets and curse folk out or are just plain rude. They spend their time talking about the folk they say at Church that week and how “Oh, Sister so -and so- , No she didn’t.” I feel that if you are someone who is truly “SAVED” you have subscribed to the thoughts that God accepts us as we are.
Now, if someone wants to go to church and get their blessings, I support that fully. But I’m at a point in my life, probably stemming from my own personal experiences where I have issues with church. I remember being like probably between the ages of 10-12 and my grandmother would force me and my cousin to go to Church and Sunday School each week. Most of these weeks she would spend home while we went to Sunday school and she’d join us later at church. Sometimes she didn’t join us. But it was like as soon as we left church, she was happy for a few minutes and then went back to cursing up a storm. I never understood it. I always imagine Christians to be good, kind hearted souls… she never embodied that. Not that she wasn’t kind.. to others.. it just didn’t give me faith in the power of prayer either because things were not easy for us growing up.
Even at work, there is this lady, Lady N, who is always talking about how she spent her wonerful weekends doing church events and passes out little green Bibles trying to convert us sinners to a better place. But then she does conniving things to get her way in the work place, how is this Christian-like? I don’t understand it. I try to keep my relationship with God a personal thing. No I am not ashamed of it. I will shout it to the mountain tops that I believe in God. But I don’t feel that by declaring myself a Christian I have to come down on religions like Buddism, Muslims, Taoism, and even Judaism. In fact, I have a desire to read about all the religions to see how they go about relationships with the higher being. I feel that that can increase my spirituality. End the end, we should be judged by our spirituality not by how well we followed organized religion…
So, I joined a contest on one of my fellow blogger site, A Phone Sex LIfe, so now EVERYONE has to go vote for me. My entry is under the name of Desire. In the contest you had to “Describe the ultimate sexual experience that anyone would love.” And I think I did pretty darn well… I haven’t read the other entries, but I will. And even if you don’t vote for me, which you should, at least vote for someone so that it makes it interesting!!
p.s. I need to find some cute catchy ending phrase, like how on Gossip girl, she’s always like “XOXO Gossip Girl.” Damn… any ideas.. Maybe I’ll hold a contest and we can vote on the best phrase .. Interesting idea .. I’ll definitely look into it…
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