Girl, you just look so mean!

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The other day or last week me and a friend were having a conversation over Gchat .. and I decided to blog it .. rather than explain it and all that, just check it out:: A: so right, my new co-worker told me that I seem unapproachable. Like when Im walking around and stuff, and I look mean until I start talking to someone and then I look happy and good .. but that she was kind of nervous to talk to me .. .and then she sat with me last week for training and she's like you know then I really realized ur really nice and funny and stuff I dont seem unapproachable do i? is it cuz I'm light skin? B: lmao. I think its cus your black…
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the BIG 3-ten

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The other day I made my first reference to my next big birthday, 30! OMG I can't believe I'm already thinking of 30! WTF! I remember being 16 and saying the perfect age was 22. And I just celebrated my 25th. Sheesh. WOW. Here's how the scenario went. I was in the shower, just doing some idle shower thinking (I tend to come up with some novel ideas and premises while showering). And I thought of getting Lasik, and I said "I'll get Lasik for my 30th birthday gift to myself" Like, it wasn't even a second thought. I'm miffed. It's official. I'm old. When did this happen? I didn't even get nostalgic when I referenced it. It didn't hit me until 3 days later when I mentioned it to…
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The past is the past ..

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Yesterday on twitter I realized what day it was .. see the tweets .. @Cleosunshine: Damn today is 10-05 ... Wow .. Woulda been me an the ex's __ anniversary ... Oh well.. Onward is the only forward .. @Cleosunshine: Its crazy what you think when your stupid in love.. I thought I'd never get over that relationship .. But I was wrroonnggg lmao @Cleosunshine: Not only am I over it, I don't look back! --- It's amazing how much a difference time actually makes. A year ago yesterday I was in a relationship with a guy I dealt with off and on since high school and I thought no matter what our ups and downs were that we would make it. I thought if this love didn't work out…
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Holy Cow! An ASS!

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What are the first words that come to your mind when seeing this: Mine? Provocative. Is that a real ass? Art. This is Anna Halldin-Maule. This is an oil painting done from a photograph she took. Dope. I found her through globa14, you can visit her HERE .
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You & Me must never part

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Dubb sent me a GREAT read today about long distance love, I absolutely LOVEEEDD it .. my response: When am I gonna get my e-love? Of course I was joking (i think) but I started thinking of my e-life. And while I haven't found the e-love of my life like others (barf barf) I have found an E-BFF!! yes, I'm talking about @Jess_Dubb, who I have to stop myself from referring to as Dubb IRL .. because my friends side-eye me like who the fuck is Dubb?? *does this make me weird??* Me & Dubb's relationship has progressed sort of like the couple who I read about today. First we were following each other on twitter, and through our tweets & @ replies discovered the other was hella cool. We…
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Ever heard of Sexual Anorexia?

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Sexual Anorexia? Sexerexia? This is a new medical condition apparently that can be defined "an obsessive state in which the physical, mental, and emotional task of avoiding sex dominates one's life. Hmmm... Really? Thats odd, because the people who aren't having sex usually want to have sex and the people having sex (or at least the ones I know) want MORE sex! But you have some people who are withholding it willingly? Hmmm.. I always thought using sex to control a relationship never worked? In the article it says that "Like self-starvation with food or compulsive dieting or hoarding with money, deprivation with sex can make one feel powerful and defended against all hurts." Hmmm... In my mind, lack of sex makes one cranky and a downright bitch (this term…
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Top Public Schools 2009, where does yours rank?

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So, Newsweek published the Top 1500 Public Schools in America this week. I kinda didn’t really pay any attention to it until today, and guess what! 48 of the Top 1500 are in NJ! Yes, that’s right the state that most movies & people mock is cranking out schools worthy of your attention! Too bad my high school wasn’t included, but hey we can’t have it all! There was one from a neighboring town though. Check it out! 85 McNair Academic | Jersey City 170 Millburn |Millburn 175 Ridge |Basking Ridge 198 Bernards |Bernardsville 210 Princeton |Princeton 303 Cresskill |Cresskill 378 Demarest |Demarest 416 Governor Livingston |Berkeley Heights 419 Summit |Summit 452 Glen Ridge |Glen Ridge 474 West Morris Mendham |Mendham 498 Ridgewood |Ridgewood 510 West Windsor-Plainsboro | South Princeton…
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Swine Flu: America’s latest epidemic!

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(image courtesy of Huffington Post) First there was anthrax.. then it was Bird Flu.. let's not forget SARS and now we have Swine Flu. There is always some new viral outbreak to worry Americans and everyone else who's willing to worry. Maybe I just think I'm so tough that I don't really pay attention to this crap. Maybe its because I'm one of those young people who thinks they are invincible. Or because I just don't believe the hype.. Either way, everyone is all up in turmoil about this damn Swine Flu. Now I admit, when I first heard the words I was like "welp, its good I don't eat pork I guess!!" LOL. I know right, how wrong and ignorant. So to prevent other people from being ignorant, I…
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Australia’s Yoga Granny puts me to shame

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I'm not really into yoga, but one of my best friends is, so I can't wait for her to hear about Bette Calman, an 83 year old yoga instructor.  Yoga Granny can get into poses that my 20-something body can't even fathom! Maybe I should get into yoga if it can keep me like this. I did always want to try Pilates though. Which one is better? & no these are NOT camera tricks (at least to my knowledge). According to the article, Bette was a pioneer of the regime in Australia in the 1950s, ran yoga centres for 33 years and made regular TV appearances in the 70s. She still teaches up to 11 classes a week and doesn't plan on giving up any time soon. I'm sure she…
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Tribadism

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I learned something new today, which is always great!  Someone said they were in the mood to watch some tribbing-and I had no idea what that was. So, being on this eternal quest for knowledge I proceeded to google "tribbing".  Yes, google is wonderful and I don't know how I survive a day without it.  I can't think of a day that goes by when I don't google something... anything.. an image... a name.. a person... But I digress I found out what tribbing was, or tribadism for the more formal.  This is the act of two women bumping kitties!!! (I am going to be PG for the sake that I just don't talk overly dirty and to say it with the other words would just be too vulgar for…
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Hot Shoes! Where can they be found?

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For a moment, let's ignore this hideous outfit that looks like it came from Baby Gap and admire the wonderfulness of these shoes.  I need more information on them, more precisely where can I find them and how many rent payments will they set me back.  Or hell, even if someone knows of a cheaper version, they are MINE! They will be so hot on my Caribbean vacation in May.  They are freaking HAUTE!!! I love the details on the heel, I have a pair of brown suede summer shoes that have a heel like that, and I love that little hidden detail with the gold stitched in there. But these, the leather and the straps are making my  heart melt.  Info please! For those who don't know who this…
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My experience as a pet owner

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I recently acquired a pet. A cat named Phoebe to be exact.  Now, I don' t really consider myself a cat person, but ever since living alone I thought getting a pet companion would be a good idea.  I toyed with the idea of a cute dog, but then I thought about the time commitment a dog would take. I didn't think I'd have that much time or dedication to give to a dog, so I began tot tinker with the idea of getting a cat.  At first I dismissed it because well, I didn't see myself as a cat lover and cats are known to mischievous/sneaky pets.  But then I saw my best friend get a kitten. Her kitten was so cute.  He was so cute and she named…
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Cop Finds out his Co-Worker is his Daddy

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Last week I read a story about a man who discovered that his co-worker was actually his father.  Can you believe that? Apparently Police Sgt. Chris Walker never knew who his father was, and this was constantly a source of discontent with him.  It's kind of a classic story, wife & husband separate.  She bangs new guy (this time a younger guy) and gets preggers.  She then tells estranged husband that she's preggers and they get back together. All the while she secretly things separation fling guy is the father.  One day Mother told Son that the man he thought was his father, on his birth certificate, wasn't really his father (this happens all the time believe it or not!).  After finding this out Walker was obsessed with finding who…
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OMG! When did Tickle.com Close?

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OH HELL NO!! I love/loved www.tickle.com.  So imagine my surprise today when I decided I was going to go get my test on and they were closed.  IDK what sparked this.  They had some good ass tests on their site. I have a folder in my Gmail dedicated to my Tickle results.  I have my sexual persona, my personality type, and my subconscious mind among others. Formerly known as Emode.com, Tickle was founded on the belief that personal insight and connections to others could be both scientific and fun. Tickle was the leading interpersonal media company, providing self-discovery, and social networking services. Their results, if you answered as honestly as possible with the choices, were usually so on point. I read online that they had psychology and marketing experts from…
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Celebrate Kwanzaa

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I've been meaning to write about Kwanzaa since the day after Christmas, but all types of holiday stuff had me too busy. I can't say that I actually participate in Kwanzaa, but I think that people have the wrong idea of what it exactly is. Some think of it as an alternative to Christmas when its not actually so. In fact, Kwanzaa is a cultural holiday versus being a religious one. Kwanzaa was "created" in 1966 by Dr. Maulana Karenga, a professor of Africana Studies at California State University during the Black Freedom Movement. t is celebrated December 26-January 1. The name Kwanzaa is derived from the phrase "matunda ya kwanza" which means "first fruits" in Swahili. Its thought to reflect the communities concern for cultural grounding and the unity…
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