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12May 2014 by Jakora Holman No Comments

Defining Moments …

Defining Moments …

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This post was started back in April 2012. I've decided I'm getting rid of all my lingering drafts! SO therefore, I can't finish it because I have no idea what my thought process was back then .. but bear with me. Enjoy!! ******************************** I forget that I'm smart. I forget that I enjoy engaging in intellectual dialogue and the exchange of free thought because it is not a part of my daily life. You would think that it would be, being that I am *hopefully* in the last year of my Masters degree and that I work at a college. But the fact is, not everyone enjoys a good back and forth exchange as much as the next. Also, when in class, those old feeling of "self doubt" and "don't…

25May 2011 by Jakora Holman 4 Comments

Bittersweet Birthdays

Bittersweet Birthdays

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So, this weekend I had a birthday. And Birthdays are bittersweet, I was soooo excited at one point and the next I was crying because I wasn't where I wanted to be and this was my second single birthday. But after some self - pep talking and some convos with awesome people, I decided to focus on the positives.. Let's see. What am I grateful for. What did 25 bring me?? AWESOMENESS !!! 1. New Job in NYC. 2. Acceptance into Grad School, in NYC 3. Trip to LA where I've always wanted to go 4. Trip to ATL where I've wanted to visit 5. Some awesome new people I didn't know last year. 6. Job moving me to the campus closer to my house !!! (Technically this won't happen…

03Nov 2010 by Jakora Holman 2 Comments

when is a 2nd chance just a 2nd chance?

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When does someone deserve a second chance? These last few days I began to think of an answer to this questions. I would think that someone would have excelled so well the first time that one would be willing to overlook a minor misstep and allow them a second chance to finish what they started? Right? Or did you give them a second chance just because, well this was their first time messing up? But then there would be no "finals" in a sense. You know, if everyone got a second chance. Sometimes you just have to accept that second chances should be the exception and not the rule and not everyone is entitled to one. Yes, it sounds good in theory that everyone deserves a second chance, but I…

20Oct 2010 by Jakora Holman 3 Comments

Keep your family & business completely separated

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5. Be more family oriented – I’ve been trying for the past year. I’m an only child, who’s not close to her mom, so sometimes I really just don’t care about family events and all those good things. But this year I’ve spent Thanksgiving and Christmas with my family, went out with a cousin for her birthday, and got myself a (future) god-child. They say family is all you’ve got, so let’s see . . So, lately I've been conducting a social experiment on my family. And as I began to write my findings I remember what I wrote back in late 2009 with my (NON) New years Resolutions and I figured now as the year is winding down I can reflect back on this. I feel like lately being…

18Oct 2010 by Jakora Holman 2 Comments

Single Black Female, addicted to retail “/

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'Single black female, addicted to retail' my friend had this as her BBM status and immediately I knew the Kanye lyric .. and immediately related, in probably a not good way. As I pillaged through my closet over the weekend I realized my own addiction to retail. And I realized who my enabler was, Salé. Better know to the masses as SALE. How many times are we like oh no! I have to get to "XXXXX" before this great sale ends? I know that I am guilty of this, and it was extremely apparent as I looked at a pair of old DKNY jeans I had thrown in a bag to take advantage of gaps 'denim recycling sale'. Bring in your old jeans and get 30% off a pair of…

22Sep 2010 by Jakora Holman 1 Comment

don’t fall victim

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This is something I typed on my BlackBerry and emailed to myself. I do write, it just sometimes gets lost in the sauce of things in my email. I'm trying to set it up where I can just email in a post, because the Wordpress for Blackberry app wasn't doing it for me ... anywho .. There are people in the world who like to try to tap holes into your wall of security so that they may prey on those newly formed insecurity pockets... I kid you not. Now, this can be in work, relationships or even friendships. For example... I'm pretty happy in general with my life, its not perfect nor is it problem free, but I happen to love it, flaws and all. Enter old-flame. (If you want…

04Aug 2010 by Jakora Holman No Comments

Cuz you aint human with out fear . . .

Cuz you aint human with out fear . . .

Mis-Adventures

httpv://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C6Cfn9ZtpAw *sigh* This song has been on my mind for a few days now. FEAR. How many people are ready and willing to admit what they fear?And I'm not talking, fear of heights and spiders. I'm talking when was the last time you thought about the fears Jazz Sull is talking about (by the way, when is her next album coming out??) I recently acqiured a composition notebook and labeled it 'The Book of Truths ... or my version of it' My first entry was about fear. Fear of letting go. I can be pretty lackadaisical about many things in life, and I am for the most part .. but I'm very guarded. I fear letting that guard down. Many people think they know me because I share trivial stories…

12Jun 2010 by Jakora Holman 1 Comment

Quotables 6.12.10

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If you buy the shoes, the fun will come I said this to my friend as we discount shoe shopped today. She was looking at a pair of shoes and said something of the sort, these are so cute and fun but I have no where to wear them to... I told Dubb my quote and she likes & believes in it. It's true. You ever have a pair of shoes you HAVE to find the perfect place to go out and wear them? You search for any reason to wear them. OH no, thats just me .. ooops

08Apr 2010 by Jakora Holman 5 Comments

Tick Tock, The Body Rock

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I really wanted to share this BBM conversation. BBM is short for BlackBerry Messenger (in case you're NOT in the know) This application is the sole reason young people are flocking to the Blackberry lately, IMO. Anywho, this conversation was had between a former college classmate and myself. We're both mid-twenty somethings and pretty amusing if I do say so myself. I think the convo started from a comment on someone's BBM status message, and then it developed a mind of its own. **names have been edited for security reasons** A: Me & boo boskie split b4 new years A: : *dueces* were chucked B: Dam. Son that's life. Ppl not makin the cut for 2010. Apps r in heavy rotation. Don't call me. Ill call uuuuu! Lol A: Lol…

23Mar 2010 by Jakora Holman No Comments

Something Borrowed …

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Another post from my Myspace days ... I don't write on my Blackberry like I used to. I am disappointed after the Spring guy lost all my memos for me when he replaced my new phone. He assured me everything would transfer over. I guess he thought my only concern was my contacts. Anywho, it just goes to show that you can do wonderful things on a blackberry and I try to use all the feature. Hope you enjoy this one too! Bored one day... typed this on my crackberry... its a work in progress.. but aren't they all?? Days go by whispering images of you and I Mental flashbacks creating a colorful canvas Captured what we had as an eternal moment in time Before it happened Before we ruined…

13Oct 2009 by Jakora Holman 1 Comment

Spreading Sunshine: 10.13.09

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1. Want to be a Wine expert? Me too! I happen to LOVE wine, and I'm all for having the right wine for the right occasion. Except, my dilemma is that I hate red wine! But, like the author said, "Every adult should be familiar with wine, even if they do not drink it." 2. Would you get a piranha pedicure? Part of me finds this midly intriguing but utterly gross!!! What do they do with the fish while they change the water? But I just really want to know how smooth are your feet when its done? Will some people still need that razor later?? 3. Need a Plug Rug? So, when I go out and I need to hide things - tampons, cameras, ID and the like, I…

05May 2009 by Jakora Holman 4 Comments

Relationship Role Playing.. Do we really want to be equal?

Relationship Role Playing.. Do we really want to be equal?

Lifestyle, Mis-Adventures

Their is the timeless argument about men, women, and who pays for the date. Many women, myself included, feel a man should pay. Some men feel that women should pay. Especially in this age of Ms. Independent. Now, I work hard and I don't really care who knows it, but I'm not one of those women who boasts about how she has her own. In fact, every time I heard that song by Jamie Foxx, Fabolous, & Ne-yo I'd cringe when he said "she takes pride knowing she paid for it." Not that its a stupid bad thing but not everyone enjoys that. Personally I'm happier when I'm using something that was a gift, it makes me feel like someone loved me enough to buy me something they knew I'd…

09Mar 2009 by Jakora Holman No Comments

How to deal with an overly eager man.

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So I don't normally do relationship blogs, but I feel the need to talk about something. I guess because I'm experiencing it in my life a little, and this is what this blog is for. So today we are going to talk about a guy type, Mr. Too Much Too Soon or Mr. Eager, but really there are many names for this type of guy. This type of guy is really annoying when you don't share the same times of feelings that he's feeling, which is usually how all problems arise. But back to topic. Mr. Eager Beaver, this is the guy whom you just met. You have spoke maybe 2 times and hung out together once. You are thinking to yourself "Well OK, he's cool. We are getting to…

19Dec 2008 by Jakora Holman No Comments

Things we won’t see in 2009!

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I never check my AOL mail, and when I do I get more fascinated with their news pieces than my actual email. AOL usually has the best lists, the top 25 things we never use, or the bottom lotions and why not!!! Those are all things I enjoy. So today I'm finally checking my email (lists) and they had their annual list of things we won't see next year. So, I am highlighting a few things from that list. What you won't see in '09! 1. Traditional Polaroid Film: I didn't know they still made this. I remember in high school I had this talking Polaroid, well my grandmother really had it, but I used to buy film and use it. Polaroid film was not cheap, but damn those cameras…

11Dec 2008 by Jakora Holman No Comments

Tyler Perry wins lawsuit!

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Spotted this story last week, but I didn't want to comment until a verdict had been reached. Apparently you haven't made it until you've been sued by someone claiming you stole their work. The latest contestant on "Is that really yours?" was Tyler Perry. Donna West of Texas felt Perry lifted material from her play "Fantasy of a Black Woman" which was performed 3 times in 1991 in Dallas. she claims Perry could have lifted her script when he presented his plays at the Dallas Black Academy of Arts & Letters in 1998. Jurors ruled that she didn't provide enough evidence to support her claim of copyright infringement. Perry insists that his play is an original work. So, while I may not be a super fan of Tyler Perry and…