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13Jul 2012 by Jakora Holman 1 Comment

Quotables

Quotables

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Browisng quotes today I first came across this Voltaire quote, "The secret of being a bore is to tell everything," and it made me think of a few things. Sometimes I do feel boring because I feel I reveal too much of the trivial details of my life. Or maybe its not that I tell the things its that I get overly dramatic (according to Jess) about very small things. I realize that everything isn't urgent or life threatening, but in that moment. It seems to be the ONLY thing you can think about. RIGHT? But I realize sometimes I can be too transparent and people are confused when I'm not so open. Baffles them. The thing is, I hate when other people are mundane with me. And I have…

09Feb 2012 by Jakora Holman No Comments

My “funny” valentine

My “funny” valentine

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Everyone's favorite made-up consumer holiday is steadfastly approaching and I am trying to avoid all the sad eyes and "woe is me" eyes that people keep giving me. Honestly, I think other people are more concerned for my lack of Valentine than I am. . . I don't remember if I was sad last year about not having a valentine, but I know this year I am NOT. And here is why I think it doesn't matter... Not to sound sound cocky, but I'm finally at a point where I realize I am single because I choose to be. Sure, I could be with someone right now, but I know deep down that they aren't the match for me. I COULD be getting laid regularly, but I know that I…

09Dec 2011 by Jakora Holman No Comments

Gemini Angst

Gemini Angst

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I read a lot about Geminis. I'm born on the cusp on Gemini/ Taurus but I've always identified as a Gemini.. I've learned that your perception of yourself is largely shaped by how you identify yourself. Anybodiessign, so much of the literature on Geminis focuses on their need for mental stimulation, and I definitely have that trait. If there is one muscle in my body that gets used, its my brain. I love to read, observe, and do all types of things that give me new knowledge. It's probably why when I do learn something new I can obsess over it. It's why I need not only an emotional partner in life but an intellectual one. Before Thanksgiving I met up with THEE ex, and I could have sat there…

23Nov 2011 by Jakora Holman No Comments

Holiday Hoe Down

Holiday Hoe Down

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The holidays are upon us again. I think I've made it no secret that the holidays are a tough time of year for me. Why? This concept of FAMILY. What does it mean? Most would lead you to believe family is blood. Family are the genial relatives who make you feel worse about yourself sometimes before you feel better. But think of SATC. Carrie, Samantha, Miranda and Charlotte were a family, no? Were they not there for each other through good, bad, up, down, left, right and upside down? The Holidays always force me to face the reality of what I define as my family and make me choose between spending time with my "family" and my FAMILY. The other day I worked myself into a tizzy thinking about my Thanksgiving…

25May 2011 by Jakora Holman 4 Comments

Bittersweet Birthdays

Bittersweet Birthdays

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So, this weekend I had a birthday. And Birthdays are bittersweet, I was soooo excited at one point and the next I was crying because I wasn't where I wanted to be and this was my second single birthday. But after some self - pep talking and some convos with awesome people, I decided to focus on the positives.. Let's see. What am I grateful for. What did 25 bring me?? AWESOMENESS !!! 1. New Job in NYC. 2. Acceptance into Grad School, in NYC 3. Trip to LA where I've always wanted to go 4. Trip to ATL where I've wanted to visit 5. Some awesome new people I didn't know last year. 6. Job moving me to the campus closer to my house !!! (Technically this won't happen…

05May 2011 by Jakora Holman No Comments

All i Need in this life of sIn

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I once had a friend who's email address was love_less_j , funny because we weren't even 21 when she had such an email address. Why would she call herself love_less before giving love a fighting chance in her life? Life had barely begun and she was naming her destiny.. The other night I was watching Khloe & Lamar on E (we all know their story-married within a month and focus of lots of media scrutinty) and it got me thinking about people who give themselves to love freely. I don't think what they feel for each other is a TV spectacle. When Lamar cradled Khloe on the floor while she cried about her weight issues and comforted her, that was love !! It bought my thoughts to a coworker I…

17Apr 2011 by Jakora Holman 1 Comment

Cheat-ah Nails

Cheat-ah Nails

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I'm completely obsessed with nail polish and designs these days. Especially ones I might be able to create myself. So, I read a tutorial on http://diynails.tumblr.com on how to do Cheetah Nails .. And decided to try it ..since I'm overly harsh I think my attempt sucked but I have to relax it was my first time and after doing further research, I needed a dipping tool (or toothpick) to make the spots .. I used a Qtip lol.. You live and you learn! Check them out! I think next time I'm going with a lighter base coat, like tan, with pink cheetah dots and the black outline. For me the green spots are too close in color to the black .. And I was rushing so it smeared. :(…

14Apr 2011 by Jakora Holman 1 Comment

What do stats really mean?

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Yesterday in an attempt to "eat healthier" a friend and I decided to go to Cosi for some salads or other "healthier" fare instead of our original pizza plan. I opted for a half soup/half salad combo. Tomato Basil soup and the Signature Salad with grapes, apples, mixed greens and gorgonzola cheese thinking I made the healthier choice by eating so light. I even got baby carrots as my side instead of chips. So I went home to calculate how many PointsPlus this was. Healthy my ASS! Why was a side of soup 6 WW Points?!? And the salad 5 points?!? Pizza is only 4 points per slice (thin crust). How can some seemingly innocent food do such destruction?! I was really bothered, I felt like "damn, I shouldn't have…

14Apr 2011 by Jakora Holman No Comments

HACKED!!!

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My site got hacked over the weekend :( .. Someone embedded some malicious code into a frame (???). Thankfully I was able to get someone to remove it (YAY!!) And now things are back to normal.. I was puzzled as to why someone would want to hack poor little me's site .. Its not like I'm collecting credit card info or email addresses.. I just don't get hackers, seriously. I have to thank Jerry who actually did it! He probably doesn't even read this stuff because he's more into presidential grave sites than shoes and random rambling, but he was such a savior! I tried to look at the files where it might be hidden, but who was I kidding, I had NO idea what to look for! HA! Posted…

12Apr 2011 by Jakora Holman No Comments

21 days to make a habit ..

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My friend mentioned this to me some time ago, and we discussed the validity of it.. And will admit, I was skeptical, but willing. Partly, because in my perpetual diet since I was 17, they say if you give up something for 2 weeks, the cravings will go away. The will just ebb away.. So I guessed this followed the same principal. I just didn't know of anything I wanted to make a habit that I could work into life at this time. Since I gave up Facebook and Twitter for lent I realized its true. In the first few days (weeks) I was jonesing to tweet and update a status.. Or I was receiving texts about someone's FB posts/pictures. But last week, about 20 something days into lent I…

10Mar 2011 by Jakora Holman 2 Comments

i always said something wasnt right in texas!

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OMG this story is disturbing. Let's not only look at the gist of it: several MEN sexually assaulted an 11 year old girl. Adults and teens. People much older than the 11 year old! http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/41993963/ns/us_news-crime_and_courts/ What disturbs me most about this article is this quote:: Residents who live nearby told The Associated Press this week that they had seen the girl, dressed provocatively and in makeup, hanging out near the area both before and after Nov. 28. Some in the town expressed doubts about the case, even suggesting authorities should consider culpability on the part of the girl. "Maturity or not I'm pretty sure she knew what she was doing," Robin Smith, 24, a cashier in Cleveland, said as she shopped this week. Why is it so common for people…

07Mar 2011 by Jakora Holman 1 Comment

Sensitive Topics “/

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Yesterday someone said to me, "are you gaining weight?" That single sentence almost ruined my day. To start I thought I looked quite chic that day in my attire. And while I hadn't lost any weight my scale also hasn't moved up. So, I was devastated. Isn't this question tied with number one for "Questions not to ask women?" Along with 'how old are you?" I had just had a conversation the previous day where someone said "but you don't need to lose weight" and I had to explain that its not about there being bigger people in the world, its a matter of physical satisfaction with oneself, which I do not have. I mean, how is that a statement to offer someone solace, "Don't worry, there are fatter people…

26Jan 2011 by Jakora Holman No Comments

the BIG 3-ten

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The other day I made my first reference to my next big birthday, 30! OMG I can't believe I'm already thinking of 30! WTF! I remember being 16 and saying the perfect age was 22. And I just celebrated my 25th. Sheesh. WOW. Here's how the scenario went. I was in the shower, just doing some idle shower thinking (I tend to come up with some novel ideas and premises while showering). And I thought of getting Lasik, and I said "I'll get Lasik for my 30th birthday gift to myself" Like, it wasn't even a second thought. I'm miffed. It's official. I'm old. When did this happen? I didn't even get nostalgic when I referenced it. It didn't hit me until 3 days later when I mentioned it to…

23Jan 2011 by Jakora Holman 3 Comments

Racism is still a.live

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My colleague posted this photo to her Facebook account today and I immediately tagged myself in it. I think its extremely thought provoking and I need to go to the racism exhibit she visited in Boston this weekend. She mentioned how they had a part of the exhibit where they took people of different ethnic/racial backgrounds and changed their skin tone but none of their features to see how people would identify them. According to her the results will shock you. It led to an interesting discussion on bone structure and racial identity. Racial identity is something I think about, probably because me and my friends joke that I'm racially ambiguous, but I identify as a young, black woman. Whenever someone asks "What are you?" and I reply, "I'm just black"…