Today’s long-awaited (haha) Spreading Sunshine is dedicated to dating! Why all the dating posts? Because some of the stuff that I’ve encountered as a newly single twenty-something has me confused. And apparently I’m not alone. Me and my homegirl TB were just gchatting away about guys (and maybe this is just NJ guys) and their lack of dating etiquette. TB made a good point that its time to get back to basics. People somehow think that dating is either an exclusive relationship or a Friends with benefit relationship. NO!! Dating is dating. Going out and having a good time, not chilling in the house! And it doesn’t necessarily include hooking up! A girl doesn’t want to have to explain this. All we girls want is to go out, laugh, and have a good time. We can do fun (FREE) stuff. NOt every date has to be an all-star event. But that’s not to say we don’t want to get dressed up and cute. I have been DYING to wear this cute outfit I have in my closet. It’s a PERFECT date outfit. But unfortunately, no luck yet. Is it asking too much to have a guy give me a reason to get all dressed up? It would be nice for him to call me, YES CALL, me and say “get dressed I’m picking you up” and then we have a night on the town. I miss those days. And I shouldn’t miss them, I’m barely 25 for Christs Sake!!
Here are the links for this topic:
Don’t Text Me No Mo’!! UGH. It’s called communication people. We’re not tweens who are in class all day. Call Me. Plain and Simple. You can get to know me a lot quicker and better by dialing me up.
Why are you still single? The Married guy is breaking down what should be done with your time in singledom. I agree with some and not others. I do think you need to learn how to be happy with yourself before you can be happy with someone else. Saying that volunteering is going to lead to a successful relationship… not totally seeing that correlation.
18 Things not to do .. This is for when you finally have a guy who does ALL the dating steps right and you decide to invite him over for some ‘Wham Bam’ he needs to heed these tidbits of advice. Dear Sirs, if you’re reading. Please pay close attention to #s: 4, 7, 8, 10 and 17. ESPECCIIAALLLY 17.
#IMJUSTSAYING
Article that’s good for reading about Enjoying Dating (thanks to TB!!!) From Essence, titled: Stop Stressing Marriage and Enjoy Dating (or something like that)
Best Tweet I’ve seen so far about the snow: RT @bikesnobnyc: I wish people would stop saying “snowpocalypse.” As a survivor of the 2Pacalypse I find it offensive <— that is HILARIOUS!!! Whats not hilarious is that the NJ Governor declared a state of emergency, but yet my job decided they still wanted to be open. #FAIL!!
Did I mention that I finished the book “The Last Lecture?” I thought it was soo good! It was exactly what I needed in my life. I mean, it made me think about how in life so many of us give up on our ideals and settle in with its distant cousin reality. No FAIR. It really is true: Reality Shouts; ideals whisper. – Nathaniel LeTonnere, translated . Why is it that way? I want my dreams and fantasies to be close. But now they are so far away I don’t even know what they are any more. Last lecture helped me think about what are the things I dreamed of doing when I was a kid, that aren’t too far off now.
– 1. I wanted to be lawyer when I was younger. I just had it made up in my mind that I was going to be a kickass trial attorney. So, I had it alll in my head I was going to go to college, major in Criminal Justice and then go directly to law school. NOPE! I took my first criminal justice course and found that it SUCKED!! And I one Graduate TA (Teachers Assistant) who broke it down for me: If you major in criminal justice and per chance don’t make it to law school, what are you going to do with that degree in Criminal Justice. Interesting advice. Needless to say I didn’t major in criminal justice.
–2. I then wanted to be a big-time magazine editor. But that is kind of hard when you don’t have the write contacts. Very Hard.
–3. I wanted to go teach English in Korea or China or Japan or some foreign country.
None of these things seem like things I really want to do now. So now I need to think of some new adult dreams. Its really hard to dream when reality is ice grilling you. Why is this so?
EW!! BARF!!! GROSS!! What in the sam hell kinda fuckery is this??? Are people really THIS obsessed with bacon?? Like Seriously??
Bacon MMmvelopes???
The same people who bought you Baconnaise (EW!! BARF!! GROSS!!) have decided the world needs another use for bacon. Because this is what is wrong with the world, not enough uses for pork fat. From their site:
“Technology has given us a lot lately. The car. TV. X-rays. The refrigerator. The Internet. Heck, we even cured polio. But what have our envelopes tasted like for the last 4,000 years? Armpit, that’s what.
Really, people? If we can’t overcome this kind of minor technical challenge, it’s only a matter of time until some super-advanced race of aliens with lasers, spaceships and a delicious federal mail system comes down and colonizes the world. And nobody wants that (except for the aliens, of course).
So, after thousands of years and kajillions of horrible tasting envelopes licked, we’re happy to report that J&D’s Bacon-Flavored Mmmvelopes™ are here to save the day. No longer will envelopes taste like the underside of your car. You can enjoy the taste of delicious bacon instead.
That’s right, bacon. It’s not real bacon, mind you, so you won’t have to start storing your envelopes in the refrigerator. But it really does taste like bacon. Which is what you really wanted in the first place, isn’t it? And it only took us 4,000 years to get there. Eat that, alien invaders.”
Who the hell still uses envelopes anyway?? I mean, any bill I send in an envelope comes in an already addressed envelope from the company requesting it. And everythig except my rent can be paid online, and that will be available soon. And I’m sure the 95 yr old lady who still mails in her requests for her life bracelet isn’t really thinking of the flavor of her envelope. ANNNDDD who buys envelopes you have to lick when they have the self-adhesive ones??? #imjustsaying.
I found this in my dialy hungrygirl.com email – you can check it out HERE
Me and my BFF had a great conversation last night about dating issues. We talked about how dating was so much easier when you’re younger (let’s say around 19) than when your slightly older. And its true, a few years make a huge difference.
One example we said was that when your 19 you kinda have (for lack of a better term) low standards. You meet a guy and find out he lives at home in his mom’s basement. You’re cool with that, because chances are that at 19 you don’t have your own place. You don’t care too much if he has a car, because you may or may not have one. You might be OK with date that included “hanging out in my basement and watching movies.” Fast Forward to 25. If you meet a guy who says “Yeah, I live in my mom’s basement.” You might have some questions as to why.
Some people have valid reasons for living home. I know that I’ve encouraged some of my friends who have been considering moving home to do so. Hell, if I could move back home and save some money, I would. But if you meet this possible date and they say they still live at home, always lived at home, their mama takes care of them, and they have no ambition. That might pose a problem. You need all the evidence before you judge. It is wrong to write someone off as soon as you hear “home.”
At 19 you may have been more willing to communicate with someone via text. You may have been more willing to invite people over to your house. When I was 19 and in college, it was perfectly fine to meet someone, invite them over to the dorm and we hang out. Either in the communal area with my floor mates or in the room with my roommate. Now, I don’t think its acceptable to invite someone over to your house all willy-nilly. Guys, (not all just some that I have come across) seem to think that if I’m inviting you over to my house we are going to partake in some hanky-panky. No, not gonna happen. At least not with me.
Another thing that is different as you get older is how you communicate. When I was 19 I never left voice mail if I called you. I mean, even sometimes now I don’t leave one, but IF I perhaps do leave you a voice mail and you return my phone call via text. FAIL!! I will not call you again until my phone call is returned. If this is early on in our ‘courtship’ I might never call again.
True Story: I met this guy. He seemed fairly nice enough and I was in a rush, and I didn’t really know if I wanted to talk to him. So I took his number. So like a day later I decided to call. I called and left a voice mail. The next day I received a text from this person, and not just a regular text – sprint picture mail. FAIL!! SUPERFAIL!! I don’t need you sending me an old ass photo of your self saying “good Morning” all you had to do was return my call. In case you need to know. I never called back. He never returned my call and he presented himself as a lame-o . LOL
What is wrong with some of these new dating ‘rules’? I am not willing to give up faith. Someone out there knows how to do it right. I know they do.
My co-worker showed me this video and I found it to be Hee-Lar-ious!! I barely paid any attention to last weeks unveiling of the iPad, but I did manage to catch some Twitter jokes about it. Even if you’re like me and didn’t pay it any attention, you will find this funny.
Fret not my lovers!!! I have not quit this gig yet! My postings always slack when I enter the busy season at my full-time job. Much apologies! It also doesn’t help that I’ve been feeling completely and utterly dull lately. I’m in a life rut! But things go on..
I have a confession. Please don’t judge. Lately I’ve been clocking waaayy too many hours of the Disney channel for someone with no kids. But Phineas & Ferb and Wizards of Waverly Place always draw me in! And when nothing else is on, they reallly hit the spot. And then I was in NYC yesterday and crossed Waverly Place! I almost went looking for the Subway Sub Shop. Its true I’m a real geek at heart, and even though I think Disney breeds little child star freaks, they are good for kids.The kids who work for Disney act, sing, dance, do stand up comedy and wash your car. They are little work slaves … and their bank accounts reflect that! I wish my parents sold me to Disney. *wishful thinking* I could be rolling in the Disney dough!!
I also from time to time watch Nickelodeon shows, like Danny Phantom and Fairly OddParents, but I’m starting to feel like I’ve seen every episode. Lately I’ve been feeling like life is emulating entertainment. Nothing interests me. I am seriously just bored with everything. I haven’t even wanted to blog about shoes. SHOES!!! You know how much I love shoes, so this is serious!!I have even stopped using Twitter as much as I used to, because I just don’t feel like I have anything interesting to say. Something has definitely got to give! Stay with me though, I am actively working to change that!
I saw this and had to share. It reminded me of a quote on last year’s work calendarL “Always remember you’re unique … Just like everybody else.” I always found that amusing. You should too!
Meet Roxxxy, she’s more than just a blow up doll, she is a “robot girlfriend” *side eye*
Have you seen Lars & the Real Girl, starring Ryan Gosling? I suggest you go watch that movie, then come back and read about Roxxxy- a sex robot that will carry on simple conversations with you. And you can choice from different personalities like Frigid & Wild Wendy. WOW! I”m sorry, please just kill me if I get that desperate.
OH, and you will definitely pay for this experience: $7,000-9,000 <<WWAHHHAATTTT!!
I am indebted forever to @Hail_Mary_Jane for posting this video on twitter! I have been laughing at it ever since Sunday night, and I haven’t partaken in any Mary Jane! I swear, if you need to laugh, see below!
“If you’re 16 and in Michigan I’ll Fcuk ya!!!!” – Classic! Who is this kid??
New Year, New ME? Isn’t that what you’ve heard all week (and the last 3 weeks of 20009?) or the fact that people were leaving the past in the last decade? If you’re like me you’ve made the same resolution ten year in a row: save money, do x, and don’t do Y. And why? So we can later count our failures as we transition to the next year, and vow to do the same things over and over again?
But that’s not to knock the significance of the idea of a New Year Resolution, because to some it really is a chance to start with a clean slate. Sometimes someething may happen on New Years Eve’s Eve and you realize that you want to leave that in the past. Don’t dwell on it in the New Year, and that is what your resolution is. And it’s freaking GREAT if you can actually do it. Personally, I take the time during the year to reflect on what needs to be changed. But it’s a matter of actually doing it. In December I bought a Planner. I said I’m going to get my life more organized in 2010, but that was because that’s when the Planner started.
As we entered the new year, I vowed to take Mr. West’s advice and “Go on a living spree.” I want a year life that is full of great experiences and memories with great people. What good will it be if I lived my life and all I could remember was that I retired early at 47 and didn’t have any fun? I have made some tangible goals for the 2010 year:
1. Get into Grad School - This means taking the Graduate Record Exam. I don’t want to do it, mainly because I don’t want to have to pay $170 to take a standardized test that’s going to tell me how I fall along the range of average intelligence. I don’t believe the hype that says standardized test are an accurate measure of intelligence. But I need to build a bridge and get the eff over my personal issues and take them. Then pay the graduate school a fee for them to review my credentials to accept me. I’d be devastated not to get in.
2. Write more – not just here. Writing in general, which is to include short stories, poems, papers, whatever the heck strikes me. Music Guides me and words inspire me.
3. Read more non-fiction – at least 1 per month that doesn’t include a book for class.
4. Prioritize – pretty much, get off the internets all damn day. Yeah, I have a problem. Needs help.
5. Be more family oriented – I’ve been trying for the past year. I’m an only child, who’s not close to her mom, so sometimes I really just don’t care about family events and all those good things. But this year I’ve spent Thanksgiving and Christmas with my family, went out with a cousin for her birthday, and got myself a (future) god-child. They say family is all you’ve got, so let’s see . .
All in all these aren’t “New Year Goals” they are life goals, because each one will put me on the path to living life to the fullest. Do you have any (NON) New Year’s Resolutions?
I wanted to post this because every time I turn on the news someone is blaming BHO for the travesty that is the Health Care Reform Bill (or ACT, whatever). And I think people forget that the people who are editing and making it what it is are our senators & congressmen. People- Know where to point blame. All I’m saying.
And who doesn’t love a throwback to a School House Rock video??
Life without the internet is torture. Yes, I said it! I can live without cable, and I can live without phone, but the internet? Never! Maybe its because everything on TV can be found online, and probably first too! Or maybe its the whole, “I’m living in a time of instant gratification” idealogy that we’ve grown so accustomed to? Either way, the truth of the matter is that this. I, Cleo Sunshine, have a firm addiction to the internet. It’s usefulness is beyond measure. My sanity is dependent upon my connection to the world wide web. Oh, and make no mistake, not just any internet will do. I have spent the last few days vying for signal on an open network somewhere in my development, its unreliable-ness is just as bad as having NO internet. Imagine. Your biting into that delicious piece of cheesecake, and right before your teeth close around the bite, it magically disappears. How disappointed would you be? Tragic I tell you. Tragic. I think this is only slightly worse than dial-up. At least dial-up was reliable. It just took 30 years to load up one page. You could go make a 5 course dinner and come back to a page loaded only 75% with no images. Unreliable internet is like cooking on an uneven stove in your neighbors house. Half of your chicken is well done, and the other half still rare. Unedible I tell you.
I did finish the book I was reading and grow up two Sim children in this downtime. It also took me 3 days to watch Will Ferrel’s Step Brothers. The excitement and humor died after the 2nd day of buffering. The next time I’m without internet, I’m packing my bags and making a cot on the Panera floor. Or anywhere else they supply free wireless. Yup. Problem Solved.
I have been a member of Facebook since it was www.thefacebook.com and when you had to be a student at an approved college. It was exciting to check the list they had to see if some of your friends colleges had been added. Then eventually they went and opened to the general public to compete with the now defunct (at least to me) MySpace. Now, its just “Facebook” and its where you go to play MobWars, SororityLife and Sim Social and maybe reconnect with family members you haven’t heard from since 1992. So, let’s see what Time has as the Top 10 Facebook stories of 2009!
1. Facebook, started by a 25 yr old Harvard Dropout surpased 300 million users in Septemeber, starting 2009 with 150million, that equates to 550,000 new members a DAY! A DAY!!!
2. Farmville – I refuse to play this game!! I’m tired of it clogging up my “news feed’
5. Re-Writing your rights: Remember when you found Facebook was able to use your photos? OH, you didn’t know?? oopps!
9. ‘Unfriend‘ made it into the Oxford American Dictionary .. but not even that, it was the WORD OF THE YEAR!! I always thought it was de-friend.. oh well ..
By now, you kn ow the routine, check TIME for the rest of the list.. This also goes with a story I was going to post yesterday with Spreading Sunshine (that I didn’t get to ) from my boy @HailMaryJane: Five reasons parents don’t belong on Facebook! I guess it was kismet that I didn’t! Half of the things I’ve read before, but they never get old. You never want your dirty laundry aired on Facebook. the funniest: finding out your parents got divorced! that’s just rude! Check the rest of his list over there
Xerox is doing something awesome.. Take a minute to send a thank you card to a troop. I don’t support the war, but I support the men who gives their lives.
Every year some new words are the ‘it’ words to say. 2009 had some beauties… The ones I thought worth noting:
1. SEXTING: I never say this word. But it’s a shortened form of ’sex-texting” and apparently its rampant in teens these days. Makes me sooo happy I have no kids!
2. Public Option: The word heard ’round the world! The health care debate is still strong and controversial. How many people reallllly know what a ‘public option’ is? I mean, do you reealllyy??
3. Auto Tone: T-Pain has ruined us! I mean, autotone isn’t new, but since T-Pain got in the game, everyone is using it. And 2009 had so much more of it than usual. It even has an iPhone app. shoot me.
Of course you know you can find the rest of the list on TIME but I didn’t find it as interesting. I mean, they didn’t even have C’mon Son or Kanye Shrug listed!! And those are far more catch worthy than some of the ones they have listed. Hell the word hashtag was more popular than Wise Latina (bet you don’t even know what that’s a reference to!!).
Cleo Sunshine is a lover, friend, blogger, writer, journalist. I love to live life and enjoy it. I'm a Jersey girl tried & true! This blog isn't strictly news or entertainment, but its definitely opinion. Come join me & experience life under the sun w/ Cleo.
New Year, New ME? Isn’t that what you’ve heard all week (and the last 3 weeks of 20009?) or the fact that people were leaving the past in the last decade? If you’re like me you’ve made the same resolution ten year in a row: save money, do x, and don’t do Y. And why? So we can later count our failures as we transition to the next year, and vow to do the same things over and over again?
) from my boy