Browisng quotes today I first came across this Voltaire quote, “The secret of being a bore is to tell everything,” and it made me think of a few things. Sometimes I do feel boring because I feel I reveal too much of the trivial details of my life. Or maybe its not that I tell the things its that I get overly dramatic (according to Jess) about very small things. I realize that everything isn’t urgent or life threatening, but in that moment. It seems to be the ONLY thing you can think about. RIGHT? But I realize sometimes I can be too transparent and people are confused when I’m not so open. Baffles them.

The thing is, I hate when other people are mundane with me. And I have this quote stored in trust BB, “Everything that irritates you about others is your key to understanding yourself. What angers you in another person is an unhealed aspect of yourself. If you had already resolved that particular issue, you would not be irritated by its reflection back to you.” AINT THAT THE TRUTH! I think about this more often every time I’m really bothred by something someone close to me is doing. And I’m working on trying to detach myself from becoming too emotionally involved in their issues, confusing them with my own.

Weirdly enough, I’m WAY more open with friends than family. I’m slowly working on trying to bridge the gaps in that and being more vocal. I still believe family will cut you quicker than a stranger, but I am willing to try. At least with some of my close in age cousins. But I’m also making it known that I am not OK with the status quo.

Anywho, as I was perusing the remaining random quotes I then came across this one,

The first rule of life is to reveal nothing, to be exceptionally cautious in what you say, in whatever company you may find yourself. If you have a secret, you have only to whisper it to your dearest friend with the strictest injunction that it will go no further, and within half a day the story is all over town, and when you do make what would seem to be a perfectly sensible remark, you will find it reported in the most grotesque form, thus incurring no end of criticism to rebound upon you.

Elizabeth Aston
I thought this was interesting and relevant because when you are in the habit of telling all the details of your day to those around you, it is only a matter of time before it becomes the revealing of secrets. And while sharing is a natural part of friendship I think almost everyone has been burned with the revealing of a secret. I have a friend who always prefaces everything she says with, “this is just between us” because clearly this has happened to her before and that feeling feeling hasn’t faded away. But also sharing with friends can lead to accountability. You remind them (or they you) that you said you hated that man so why are you screwing him or that you are allegedly on a diet so why is that an ice cream cone in your hand?

I’m just rambling out loud

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  • According to Jess, as if allegedly it were true lol. You ARE dramatic, and enthusiastic, and vivacious! That’s just you and the beauty of your charm. Don’t think so much, just be.

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